(Gul shivnani)  If intentions are clean and clear, you will win the WORLD. But of it is otherwise (malafide, wrong, cunning, selfish Intentions) it will be very difficult for you to even win yourself.

• Intentions drive your thoughts,
• Thoughts drive your behavior,
• Behaviour drives your words and body language.
• All this is converted in ATTITUDE that is been observed by others.

We are talking of 2 strong words here – Intentions and Attitude. We will talk in some details about the same.

Intentions – It is an ACTIVE desire to achieve some future goal through some specific behavior.

Intentions are interests being manifested through behaviour.

For e.g. (Positive Intentions)

-        A Woman reaching out to a car door with an intend to open and drive or sit

-        A Student enrolled in college with an intention for get a degree

-        A Man bent over and finger laces of his shoe with an intention to tie them

For e.g. (Selfish/wrong Intentions)

-        A person talking sugar coated language with one of his wealthiest friends with an intention to get benefit in the future. And somehow the circumstances make the friend poor with less wealth same friend finds all possible ways to ignore him.

-        A man/woman trying to do anything & everything with the strongest person to achieve their wrong goals (embezzlement, get in power, satisfy EGO / Jealousy)

NO ONE CAN SEE YOUR INTENTIONS BUT YOUR BEHAVIOUR IS CLEARLY SEEN AND CLOSELY OBSERVED.

Here we can clearly see there is a big challenge we see, when it comes to the wrong intentions. And clearly intentions can really be known only to the person holding them.  It is only by asking the person himself that we get the true picture of his intentions – ONLY IF he is telling the truth. And here our faith in his word – his credibility based on past behavior and actions.

Attitude – It is a want or desire or an object or a goal. The strength of a person’s attitude is his interest. An interest is an activated attitude always involves a goal and object.

Intentions represent the motivation and the attitude behind our actions.

However, you can have the purest motives in the world, but if your behavior is not communicated clearly, then things will be misunderstood. No one has the ability to read your mind. You may have the best of intentions and your motives may be pure, but again, simply having a good intention does not compensate for misunderstood behavior.  Let me give you an example.

Example 1 - I wish to go to Pune to attend a business meeting @ 10:00 AM, and intend to leave early the next day.

•      A day earlier there is a nice series going on and I sleep very late, so I am not able to get up in morning to leave for Pune despite me intending to leave early.  OR    
•         I take all care and sleep early. Get up early next day morning leave for Pune. I am driving nicely on Eastern express highway to get to Freeway to Pune. Then I take a turn to catch Ahmedabad highway….
  

Now my behaviour matters here as I have taken wrong route or a longest route and will not reach on time for my meeting

Example 2 – I wish to give some money that I had taken from Mr. JhunJhun and have promised him to pay by 20^th of next month. You did write a note that you will make the payment by 20^th.  Also you did call him to assure that you will make the payment by the due date. But still the person waiting to receive the money is only looking for one thing – whether or not you actually fulfill the promise to pay them on the 20^th just like you would do.

An unexpected situation occurred and you are not able to make the payment on 20^th that you INTENDED to. The situation may be genuine and legitimate but on one will read your intentions. Mr JhunJhun can see only your behaviour or giving you a reason for delaying the payment. As the old saying goes, “Actions speak louder than words…or intentions.”

Its very strange na, we intend to want others to judge us by our intentions, yet we judge everyone else by their behavior. It would be better to judge ourselves by our behavior and offer grace to others and judge them by their intentions. Unfortunately, that is not the way it usually works.

Its always rightly said we are wonderful Judges for OTHERS and superb ADVOCATES for yourself. Right?

I encourage you to ask yourself if your behavior is actually demonstrating your intentions. Remember that no one can read your mind. No one has any idea what your intentions are. Even if they are noble and great, they must still be backed up by right behavior, keeping your word, good deeds and quality actions.

Try this for one week and you will find yourself whether your intentions are positive or unintentionally negative.

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